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December 24, 2009

Why a sub?

As a mature man, I can’t say I completely understand why I still find pleasure in being a slave to women, but I have to confess that just the thought has always given me intense sexual arousal. I guess I have always felt awed in the presence of a pretty woman but never felt I knew how to please her. That is probably why I get the greatest arousal when a woman takes control and ownership of my body and through a regime of humiliation, rewards and punishments, instructs me on how she wants me to please her.

It is an unexplainable paradox for me that I feel the most manly when I am kneeling naked in front of a woman with my ass burning from the punishment she just gave me and I am kissing and caressing her feet in gratitude.

My question to the dominant women in the group is, what attracts you to be a dominant? Is it simply the power over men (or women), is it erotic, or is it something else? If you do find it sexually arousing, is it visual (like seeing a naked man in an awkward state of arousal or his bright red ass), sensual (enjoying the sub licking your toes or feeling him squirm on your lap as you paddle him) or again something else? Is the experience the same with female subs as it is with male subs?

Finally, what would you say, in your opinion, would be the attributes of the perfect male subordinate? What would be the scenario of the best short term session and for the best long term relationship with a male sub? Would it be different with a female sub?

Submitted by: Guy10


October 20, 2008

Fight The Kinky Porn Ban

For the first time in the western world, when extreme image clauses come into effect in January 2009 it will be illegal for anyone in England and Wales to POSSESS such an image. The central issue here is not whether violent and abusive behaviour is defensible. It is not, as everyone agrees. Rather, the issue is whether this proposal will criminalise non-abusive activities engaged in by consenting adults. It seems crazy that we live in a world where Hollywood produce movies of murder, rape and serial killers, our news programs show daily images of war, people being blown up, shot, killed and abused. But no, the attack by the powers that be is as it always is - against porn - movies and images of consenting adults indulged in fetish activities.

The question that immediately follows is this: if the activities or material in question are not abusive, should they be outlawed because some (even most) people find them distasteful? It is worth remembering that a majority once took that view on homosexuality.

The Consenting Adult Action Network - CAAN - are organising an action day against the upcoming law. As a British citizen with a keen interest in cuckoldry, fetish and femdom erotica I am very concerned about the Government making criminals out of people LOOKING at kinky porn with CONSENTING ADULTS. It’s just one step away from thought crime. Very, very scary. Please help spread the word and show your support by fighting this ban on our freedom.

London - 21st October 2008 - 12:00

St. Stevens Tavern, Bridge Street, London SW1A 2JR - then after to The Houses of Parliament

CAAN are back in London again on 21st October for another awareness raising action against the kinky porn ban and for the freedom of consenting adults to express their sexualities.

We’ve tried being reasonable and now it’s time to be a little bit more interesting..

If you can attend the action to leaflet and so on, or are able to assist with things behind the scenes like transporting equipment, people, or donating resources during the time surrounding the action, please get in touch with us ASAP at info@caan.org.uk or via the web-form.

If anyone feels generous cash wise and is able to donate towards either materials for the action or getting people there who would come if they could afford it, please contact us at the address above.

“We believe in the right of consenting adults to make their own sexual choices, in respect of what they do, see and enjoy alone or with other consenting adults, unhindered and unfettered by government."

"We believe that it is not the business of government to intrude into the sex lives of consenting adults.”

If you’d like to support this simple notion, please Sign Up


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May 2, 2008

Exotic Tales

Exotic Tales brings quality forced feminization movies to the internet. Our focus is on variety of fetish fantasis - forced feminization, domination, spanking, wrestling, upskirt, and foot fetish. Our movies show sexual, sensual domination where young attractive women dominate young attractive men. We avoid the Dominatrix stereotype and try to portray real women who take charge. We also avoid the submissive stereotypes; our characters don’t want to be dominated. They fight, they resist, but unfortunately they lose. Consensual domination movies are about as exciting as a war movie about war games where every one shoots blanks. So if your tired of “Yes Mistress, May I Kiss Your Feet” come on in and take a look.

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Mistress Fayth Deluca at Exotic Tales

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October 1, 2006

Femdom Violence Can Be Sexy

Scouse B’Stard, when writing his femdom fiction “The Thrill of Violence”, added the following comments:

“To a certain degree, I have based this story on a relationship I was in at the age of seventeen. I will call the girl I was going out with Andrea, for that is not her real name. Andrea looked, to me, like the most sweet and innocent girl in the world. But she had an annoying habit of leading other guys on, claim she had been insulted when they made a pass at her, and insist that I defend her honor. I would invariably end up fighting with the poor bastard who had been set up, just to defend her honor. Call me naive, but it took me several months to switch on to the fact that she had planned it all along because she got off on watching men fight over her.

Whether you like this story or not, it is a fact of life (certainly in my youth, anyway) that some girls like to watch men fight. I personally find the idea a bit of a turn on, and am intrigued enough to take it a stage further, and write a story on the subject. My imagination has taken the scenario to its most extreme case, where the young woman of the story gets off on watching her boyfriend beat up and kill people, and she also secretly tortures and murders people for kicks. So no surprises there, then.

In most bars and nightclubs you will see fights break out, especially on Friday and Saturday nights when alcohol consumption is higher. I am sure you will agree that most people who witness them hold their hands up in horror, glare disapprovingly, and even attempt to stop them. But next time you’re in a place when the fight breaks out, look around you at the other people, and you may be surprised. I guarantee that a fair proportion of the audience will have vindictive half smiles, there will be lips being licked with relish, laughing, cheering, encouragement and some rather nasty suggestions on how one guy should maim or kill the other. In short, they enjoy watching people fight. I am also willing to bet that some of the most eager encouragement will come from young women, even the ones that look as though butter wouldn’t melt in their mouth. Because, as the ancient Romans knew when they put on the public gladiator displays, violence can be a turn on to some people. The chances are, you wouldn’t be on this web page if you didn’t think that too.

If the fight involves a doorman, or bouncer, or whatever you call him in your own country, pay even closer attention. When he has beaten the weedy little drunken guy to a pulp and thrown him out, take a look at how many girls try and score with him. In fact, has anybody ever seen a bouncer with an ugly girlfriend? That’s the natural selection process kicking in, and like I said, violence can be sexy.

Whilst writing this story over the last few weeks, I discussed the general subject of violence with seven different girls, either through E-Mail or in “Innocent” conversation over a beer. It may interest the reader to know that five of the women were thrilled at the idea of watching men fighting over them. One of the others said she did not need to see the actual violence, but the thought that a man was capable of it was a turn on to her.

Amongst friends of both sexes, I also canvassed opinion on one of the scenes in the story, which uses the idea of a girl forcing a guy at gunpoint to lick sperm out of her pussy prior to killing him. The reason for this being (apart from the murderess having a nice time as she gets her pussy eaten) that the murder would be blamed on a homosexual rape when the post mortem revealed the contents of the victims stomach. I found the results of my very limited survey to be quite amusing – Every man expressed disgust to varying degrees, whereas every single woman thought it was a pretty neat idea, in fact two of the girls who saw the rough drafts selected the scene as the best part! I should add that my intention was never to offend homosexual readers by including such a plot in the story, as in my view they already take enough unjustified criticism from society. I suppose I must also take into account that some of the women were into sites like this, and so my “Survey” results were therefore not totally representative of the public in general. It makes you think, though, doesn’t it?”

To validate this, we’d be interested in the views of you the reader on any of the above points, even if it’s to tell us that you think Scouse is talking crap. We love reading the small amount of mail we do receive, and try to reply to them all. Criticism, new ideas for stories and quick little notes just to say hello are also most welcome from anyone. Please contact us.

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September 4, 2006


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Female Domination- by Sam Slav

Female domination, or femdom, refers to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female. The female dominant party in female domination related activities is sometimes called a dominatrix.

Naturally, female domination activities may draw on all areas of BDSM, but there tends to be an association with radical feminism, whether seriously or fantastically. This can lead to apparent paradoxes, such as the humiliation of men by feminization, though it is readily resolved by seeing this as disclaiming traditional gender associations, and transference of coded images of weakness onto men. Strap-on dildo play plays a significant part in this as well. The inverse of this is of course to glorify the feminine, for example in panty fetishism and boot worship.

Erotic Female Domination and Humiliation

Similarly, erotic female domination and humiliation can focus on the inadequacy of a male sub’s penis (small penis humiliation), demoting it to a plaything for the dominatrix, over which the male has no real control. Related female domination activities include ballbusting, cock and ball torture (CBT), verbal humiliation, forced chastity, and orgasm denial or orgasm control. Many participants in this lifestyle conform to the Safe, sane and consensual model prevalent in the BDSM Community.

Psychology of Humiliation

Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualized. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive male may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways.

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualized by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation.

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, in female dominations, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used to submissives, such as “faggot”.

As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. Others do explore humiliation with partners, and many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other.

Female Domination Scenarios

Light female domination scenarios may involve body worship, especially foot worship and ass worship.

More intense and heavier female domination scenarios may involve facesitting or smothering, which tend to focus on the sub giving the dominant female oral pleasure, or the dominant female performing anal sex on the sub using a strap-on dildo. Other forms of more intense female domination can include face slapping, hair pulling, caning, heavy torture, dripping hot wax on the genitals and heavy whipping. For these purposes, note the issue of legal consent which may or may not represent a defense to criminal liability for any injuries caused.

In extreme scenarios, there is a focus on exchange of bodily fluids and total forfeit of rights from the slave, and acts may involve spitting domination or watersports (also known as golden shower).

A fairly common variation on this is a rape fantasy in which the female is the dominant partner, or wrestling/fighting in which the female is stronger than the male. These carry a similarity to forced feminization, where the sexual fantasy takes on an intellectual/emotional component, with men either trying to, or pretending to try to, take control, but failing.

Various components of female dominance in a relationship may include one or more of a wide variety of components such as (to name just a few examples):

Adoration; Aggressive sex play; Alternative spirituality; Body worship; Bondage and discipline; Cruelty; Denial; Depersonalization; Domestic service; Dominance and submission; Erotic boxing/wrestling; Erotic “torture”; Feminist spirituality; Fetishism; Flagellation; Foot worship; “Forced” feminization; “Forced” chastity; Goddess worship; Gynosupremacy (female superiority) as a form of role playing; Humiliation & Humbling; Masochism; Maid service; Pain play; Personal services; Role playing; Sadism; Sensation play; Service (of a wide variety of means); and Subservience.

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December 27, 2005

Mean Xmas

The fantastic Women at Mean Bitches sent me a lovely card for the Holidays which I thought I’d share with you all.

Happy Xmas from Mean Bitches

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October 28, 2005

In Search of WOW

A fantastic article today from wonderful Mistress Karin von Kroft describing the passion She feels in Her work.

I also have an interview with this fine Lady coming on Monday.



Every one is good at some thing. They have been praised for their work. And others have told them of the pleasure that they get from what they do. That satisfaction from doing something well prompts them to say in their mind “I can do better, I can do more”. Because they love the feeling of doing something well they will gladly spend the time in practice and imagination, forever following the human spirit in its quest for the exultation that comes when you “go for it”. You don’t see it very often but I am sure Vincent van Gogh felt it and it prompted his friend Paul Gauguin to say, “You paint too fast”. It is there when you see the old film of Elvis singing Heart break Hotel; You see the joy and the power. Or Janis Joplin at the Monterey Pop Festival when she sang Ball and Chain. You can see Mamma Cass in the audience mouth –WOW!

When you see My pictures or experience My presence I want you to say WOW!!!

I don’t want you to be satisfied:

I want you to be amazed.

This is how I feel about My work.

It is not an intelligent act to ask an artist to explain who they are and what they do in words. Their art is the communication. What they want you to understand is resolved and expounded in the work itself. If they would have wanted to reveal their spirit to the world in words then that’s how they would have done it. There is nothing left of Betty Paige but her pictures. No one knows if she got married, got religion, had children, where she lives or if she lives. There is hardly a written word attributed to her. But these pictures are enough. Every bit of her gift can be realized and appreciated from what remains.

It is impossible to articulate My spirit when I am totally naked, completely aroused, and working with a man under my control. I go for it. I risk all. I have lost all concern for what other people might think.

I want you to feel My joy and power.

I hope this comes across in My website, My pictures, My videos, or My sessions. They reveal all that I want you to know about Me.

Mistress Karin von Kroft

Mistress Karin von Kroft

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October 11, 2005


I have a great belief in Women being the dominant force in every relationship and have a strong interest in the hotwife and cuckold lifestyle. Women being sexually independent and choosing their partners as they see fit. The husband should be there to support his Wife and provide love and satisfaction for Her whenever She requires it. Femdom practices are often deemed to be performed by independent Dominatrices who have no direct connection with their sub. But in reality the FemDom lifestyle is widely practised on a day-to-day basis within the confines of a relationship.

One such Mistress who provides instruction and advice within this field is the wonderful Ms. MacComb.

Ms. MacComb trains other Women the techniques of cuckolding and female domination within the relationship. Her practices include spanking, denial, cuckolding, verbal humiliation, forced oral service and cream pie eating.

Not only is Ms. MacComb a perfect example of a Dominatrix - beautiful, intelligent, articulate and knows instinctively how to find the weaknesses of a mans mind (including mine) but She also is a Woman who is passionate about Her views and texts on Female Supremacy and freedom of speech. I have a deep respect and love for Her and in the past have even been lucky enough to be on the receiving end of some of Her humiliating comments.

It would be my dream to serve this Lady.

Here’s an example of one of Her brilliant pieces of writing.



For many women humiliating their husband can be a very erotic and powerful emotion and activity. Breaking the conventional molds of both a male dominated society and treating him in a way that is against everything we where taught as little girls can be thrilling and empowering. For the men that accept/enjoy this form of domination it can be a sexual experience so strong in itself, it can cause lightheadedness a strong sense of devotion to his wife and in some cases even ejaculations. We all heard that the way to a mans heart is through his stomach, but the way to his mind is through his penis. Treating him in a way that arouses him will keep him coming back for more. It is up to you to ensure this. If you think about it, his cock is directly linked to his brain you control one, you control the other.

Humiliating him can be done in many different ways. To break it down into major categories it simplifies it. His attire, his chores, his mind, his body, his sexuality and/or masculinity. Cross dressing, performing chores or duties for you, verbally abusing or insulting him, mocking his endowment or stamina, suggesting he is not a real man, or maybe bisexual. Any or all of these methods will have a very strong effect on submissive men. That is not however to say that all methods will work for everyone. For some a more traditional scolding is the most effective, for other being made to wear panties while being called a small cocked wimp will be more productive. You must experiment and try out different ways to find what works best for you.

I feel that for many men the best approach is the “build up/break down” style of mental torture or anguish. After he has been in submission or training for at least a few weeks, you can implement this method. The idea is to keep him humble. Never insult his intelligence as this will not have the right effect nor is it productive. However, say for example he is nice looking, decently built with a normal size penis and average in bed. By telling him initially that he is good and fine at the above his ego gets pumped up. After a few weeks you should begin to criticize his technique in bed, make comments about his penis size, his stamina and his desire to please you. Over a few days he will become worried and concerned. Now is the time to reassure him and make him think all is well. A few days later you should begin to complain about the same things again, but more forcefully. The whole process just repeats itself till he is constantly anxious and does everything he can to try to please you.
I really feel that in many cases humiliating him in front of other women is important. Having his manhood, penis size, and even questioning his sexual orientation in front of your girlfriends will be both devastating and exciting to him at the same time. As well, I feel that having him serve you and a couple of close friends while being nude or in some type of punishment uniform will really push him to the edge of his desire to submit. He will usually complain and protest, all the while having an erection. The telltale sign for any humiliation tactic is not what is in his eyes or coming out of his mouth, but by what is in his pants. If he gets erect, no matter how much he protests, you know you are making good headway at giving him a good dose of humility.

Ms. MacComb

Ms. MacComb instructing her student Lisa

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September 30, 2005

Why so appealing?

What makes the Dominant Female so appealing and such a sexual icon?

It’s a aspect that often crosses my mind. A desire to be within the control of a powerful woman, to be humiliated and belittled. To experience pain at the hands of this Goddess and to enjoy it. Strange when you think about it.

And the complex practices that are involved, personally I am more in the humiliation camp than the CP one, but there are hundreds of factors at play here that make up the way in which we want to be dominated that I’m sure would baffle the world’s leading psychologists.

I’m sure a lot is due to our twisted childhood and strict schooling. Finding fetish porn at age 12 probably didn’t help much either. LOL

I remember a game we used to play at school. Yes I was a pervert even then ;) The girls would all get the boys to go hide in the fields and then they’d come looking for us. If they found us they would hold us down and put grass down our pants and smear dirt and mud on our faces. I always seemed to allow myself to get captured. I remember one time when I was ‘caught’, an older girl called Justine got the girls to hold down my wrists and she proceeded to spit onto my face. It was probably the most erotic experience of my childhood.

A dominant, powerful Woman is an instant turn-on for me but what I find strange is that I am quite a control orientated person. I run my own life and business, make my own decisions and tend not to let anyone influence or do anything for me. I am not a ‘needy’ person emotionally or have any desires to be attached lovingly to one single person.

Under a Dominatrix though I lose all control, my decisions are made for me, my actions are useless. I am ordered what to do and when to do it. I have total desire and love for my Mistress I am under a spell and most obey. This reversal of personality is baffling and I am at a loss to explain the change of personality here.

I grew up in a culture that deemed men to be the dominant force in a relationship. Of course, even more prominent this was a generation before. Even today some men can not conceive that a male would willingly submit to a Woman. So the Femdom lifestyle is something that goes against the grain of historic culture…. but so do I. I hate establishment and conventional thinking I like alternative in everything and especially, music, politics, arts, porn and Women.

Thankfully the old masculine attitudes are getting drowned out, the old voices are becoming weaker and are now generally ridiculed by the majority of people.

So why so appealing? I’m not entirely sure but what I do know is that Women are the new superior gender. The male population better get used to it.



September 29, 2005

Mean Bitches

Where do I start? As anyone knows a new website takes a while to get off the ground. So for a while I’m sure I’ll be making posts and there won’t be too many people coming across them but that’s not going to distract from the quality and diversity of Femdom I want to display here. There is far too much poor quality rubbish on the net and within this lifestyle niche and I can assure you that this will always be an informative, content rich community blog and banner free zone.

As my first major post I want to bring your attention to the amazing Mean Bitches website and briefly general gripe I have about the Femdom image.

I don’t know if other subs feel this way but I am very keen to see more Dom Women in feminine dress more often. It seems as soon as you venture into a ‘Dominant/Submissive Lifetsyle’ you immediately have to have a Dom dressed from head to toe in leather, spiked over-knee boots, hair scrapped back, paddle in hand.

Well I love seeing Dom Women dressed in more of a ‘girlie’ way. Maybe because in every day life you never see a leather-clad Dominatrix walking down the street and you can relate more to conventionally dressed women. That’s what I love about Mean Bitches and video production companies like Anaconda, they are appealing as their Goddesses are dressed in more of an everyday style. Sometimes just jeans and a halter top - fantastic!!!

Also while I’m on the subject - dress codes at Fetish Clubs… Yes some people really like to get the latex and leather out and get dressed up and of course it’s a important part of lifestyle iconography but just sometimes as a sub I’d like to not have to wear the leather pants and dog collar just to get past the door and the joy of being dominated by a woman in a frilly skirt and cowboy boots… Just a thought…

So onto Mean Bitches and their superb website. The resident Mistresses are all beautiful, some are working adult models and the themes they cover include Facesitting, Ass Worship, Foot Worship, Cuckolding and more… They only put Mistresses on the site who truly enjoy tormenting and destroying men. Although some are more dominant than others, they all enjoy Femdom to some degree. Many of the Mistresses on the site have had full-time slaves at one point in their lives.

Mercedes Ashley is one of the Mean Bitches on the site. She is a grogeous latina and famous pornstar with a real wild side. Here’s what she has to say on her dominant side:

“I am a sweet, loving chica… unless you piss me off. I have a bit of a temper problem. If my man fucks up, he will hear about it! I have been known to get so mad that I leave permament scars…on girls or guys. If my man gets out of line, I am not afraid to knock him on his ass. Don’t call me unless you like it rough, chico.”

“I love to make guys eat my pussy. Not like where I lay on my back with my ass on a pillow and he gently licks my clit….I like it NASTY. I like it when the guy is on his knees and I grind my pussy in his face. I grab his hair and pull his face in. That way I can direct him to do it just the way I like. When I cum, I dig my nails into his neck and pull his head in hard, so he can swallow my juices.”

“I get wild. Want to party with me? Think you can handle a wild Puerto Rican girl? Are you man enough? Are you a good hombre? Call me baby… I do bachelor parties and private shows all the time. Think you can take my strapon? Want to see this perfect ass right in front of your face?”

Interested? Her contact details are on the site.

Mercedes Ashley

Mercedes Ashley

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