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December 24, 2009

Why a sub?

As a mature man, I can’t say I completely understand why I still find pleasure in being a slave to women, but I have to confess that just the thought has always given me intense sexual arousal. I guess I have always felt awed in the presence of a pretty woman but never felt I knew how to please her. That is probably why I get the greatest arousal when a woman takes control and ownership of my body and through a regime of humiliation, rewards and punishments, instructs me on how she wants me to please her.

It is an unexplainable paradox for me that I feel the most manly when I am kneeling naked in front of a woman with my ass burning from the punishment she just gave me and I am kissing and caressing her feet in gratitude.

My question to the dominant women in the group is, what attracts you to be a dominant? Is it simply the power over men (or women), is it erotic, or is it something else? If you do find it sexually arousing, is it visual (like seeing a naked man in an awkward state of arousal or his bright red ass), sensual (enjoying the sub licking your toes or feeling him squirm on your lap as you paddle him) or again something else? Is the experience the same with female subs as it is with male subs?

Finally, what would you say, in your opinion, would be the attributes of the perfect male subordinate? What would be the scenario of the best short term session and for the best long term relationship with a male sub? Would it be different with a female sub?

Submitted by: Guy10

2 Responses to “Why a sub?”

  1. Laura said:

    The perfect male submissive is an unreality. Things I look for in a man as a submissive are understanding that there is more to our relationship than D/s. I want conversation and someone to laugh with too. A warm body to share the bed or get out of it and back into his bondage if the mood to be wicked strikes me. I don’t like the term vanilla in the way people see it as BDSM and everything else is vanilla. Vanilla play is part of the whole for me. It is from the everyday that I get my best inspiration for enjoying him in his submission. For me the play is not some big production but an extension of sex, foreplay and passion. Domming is fun for me. Yes, it is also a turn on physically, mentally and emotionally but I like to laugh too. I like to have him in bondage twitching and squirming and see the humour in all of it. He does look funny. The penis itself is crude and funny looking. No wonder it makes such a good toy, such a good way to torment and tease him. Being a Dominant is fun. When I stop having fun with it something is wrong. If I start to feel I’m just going through the motions to please him I know I have gotten off track. This basic fact gets missed in a lot of the literature, illustrations and talk about what female domination is.

  2. Mistress L said:

    I HAVE RECENTLY ACQUIRED A NEW SUBMISSIVE MALE … I CALL HIM MY PLEASURE SLAVE … HIS ENTIRE PURPOSE BEING TO BRING ME PLEASURE … HIS BODY MINE, TO USE AS I WISH … IN ANY WAY I WISH. HE IS AN OLDER PASSIONATE ATTENTIVE LOVER … WE JUST DISCOVERED THIS ‘ALONG THE WAY’ HE THINKS … BUT HE IS NOT MY FIRST … I SIMPLY WATCH FOR THE SIGNS IN A POTENTIAL LOVER … AND WHEN A MAN REVEALS HIMSELF TO ME IN A WAY THAT I THINK MIGHT ‘OPEN THE DOOR’ … I SUGGEST A FEW THINGS TO SEE HIS RESPONSE. I HAVE MADE SLAVES … VERY WILLING ONES AT THAT … OUT OF MACHO MALE DOMINANTS WHO FIRST THOUGHT TO MAKE ME THEIR SUBMISSIVE … IF A MAN WANTS YOU BAD ENOUGH … IF YOU CAN GET UNDER HIS SKIN … START CHIPPING AWAY AT THAT “ME TARZAN, YOU JANE” MINDSET … LEAVE HIM VERY AWARE OF PHYSICALLY NEEDING YOU … YOU … NOT JUST A WOMAN TO DRILL INTO … BUT TO PLEASE YOU … SO HE CAN FEEL LIKE A MAN … THEN YOU CAN TEACH HIM JUST HOW HOT AND EROTIC ‘ROLE REVERSAL’ CAN BE … AFTER A FEW INTENSE ORGASMS RESULTING FROM ‘PLAYING’ … HE’LL BE MORE THAN ‘READY’ … HE’LL BE EAGER TO SERVE YOU … I LIKE MY SUBMISSIVE VERY MASCULINE IN ALL WAYS … I JUST DEMAND HE OBEY ME IN COMPLETE AND TOTAL SUBMISSION … THE CONTRAST IS QUITE HOT … I NEVER HAVE TO PHYSICALLY PUNISH OR HUMILIATE … YET, HE … AND THOSE BEFORE HIM … OBEY ME … WITH AN EAGER TO OBEY SUBMISSION THAT RESULTS IN HOURS AND HOURS OF HOT PLEASURE … YES, FOR HIM AS WELL … I REWARD OBEDIENCE … IT’S MUCH MORE EFFECTIVE.

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